Bringing in the New Year could mean it’s time to make changes, declutter and let go of the unwanted things that hold you back from success. When you let go of unwanted things it makes you feel lighter, happier and more productive so you can achieve success and feel fulfilled. Here are 10 things to let go of that may hold you back from excelling in the New Year!
Have you been feeling less focused, thoughts scattered or moody and react to events that cause you stress. This occurs when you have little control over your mind and thoughts. To create mindfulness, try this technique. Sit in your chair or on the floor with your back straight and place your hand over your heart or chest. Take a nice deep breath and imagine it filling up your heart or chest and hold it for a count of 5. Next time inhale for a count of 5, hold for a count of 5 and then release for a count of 5. Also, introduce thinking of a thought that brings you joy, peace or happiness. This process takes your mind from chaos to focused.
- Regrets and Mistakes
Holding onto regrets, mistakes or past failures is like carrying a heavy backpack around. It weighs you down and prevents you from moving forward. Take a moment, think about them, learn from them and let go of regret and/or mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes and some of those produce great lessons for better results. Write down the regrets and mistakes on a piece of paper then take a lighter or match to burn and release them.
- Mental Clutter
What thoughts or self-talk fill your mind each day? Do you make statements such as “I’m not good enough”, “I can’t” or “Why bother” or have mental chatter and feel overwhelmed? If your head is full of negative thoughts and mental chaos that zaps your energy and affects your productivity, it’s time to come up with a game plan to eliminate them. Develop power statements and rituals that can clear your mind and energize you. If you need a boost or redirection make a power statement like “I can”, “This is easy”, “I’m strong and confident” or something to remind you to charge ahead. Take a moment to relax, meditate, journal to clear your mind too.
- Burn out
Everyone can experience burn out and it creates disengagement which can affect all areas of your life. It can show up as exhaustion, inefficacy and constant doubt. One tip when burn out sets in is to allow yourself some time to recharge. Sometimes it means repositioning yourself to take a moment to just be and relax. Go for a walk, take a time out and just breathe.
- Other People’s Expectations of You
There is a saying that says “What other people think of you is none of your business.” Start to remind yourself of that. Some fall into the trap of living life to meet the expectation of others, be it family, friends or co-workers. Those expectations are set by them – not you. Take charge of your own personal expectations. What do you want? What do you expect from yourself? Those are the standards you should live by.
Many strive for perfection. Ask yourself what is perfection? Who sets it? If perfection exists where is room to learn and grow. Set standards that are achievable and realistic and be okay with doing the best you can with the resources you have. Make this year about “good enough” not by lowing the standards but by being comfortable with your results when the effort is made.
Do you show up as you or who you think you should be? Being yourself is not easy for some because it may require you to be vulnerable. When you show up in life as yourself it opens doors and opportunities.
- Performing without Intention
Many times people just show up at meetings, performances or gatherings without an intention. When you set an intention for your day, work, performance it gives more purpose and meaning to it and produces better results. If there are things that you’d prefer not to attend, then learn to say “no” and dedicate that time to something more productive and rewarding. Write down your intentions or goals.
- Energy Draining Relationships
Review your relationships and determine which ones drain your energy and hold you back. Know what you value and what your objectives are and surround yourself with people that support them. Develop high-quality relationships that are based on respectful engagement, trust, common ground, consideration, predictability, transparency and for some you may want to add fun. Set boundaries and use them when the energy drainers show up.
- Unhealthy Habits
This could be many things like overindulging with food, alcohol, surfing the internet wasting time, procrastination, gossiping, arguing or criticizing others. Review the habits in your life and select ones that you want to change. Change is not always easy but the benefits and results are so worth it. Write down new habits and introduce them daily to imprint in your mind and life. Repetition, rituals, and practice install new habits into your unconscious mind so that it becomes part of who you are and happens automatically.